All families of children affected by trauma are on a journey, and this book will help to guide you and your family on your journey from trauma to trust. Sarah Naish shares her own experiences of adopting five siblings. She describes how to use therapeutic parenting – a deeply nurturing parenting style – to overcome common challenges when raising children who have experienced trauma. The book describes a series of difficult episodes for her family, exploring both parent’s and child’s experiences of the same events – with the child’s experience written by a former fostered child – and in doing so reveals the very good reasons why traumatized children behave as they do. The book explores the misunderstandings that grow between parents and their children, and provides comfort to the reader – you are not the only family going through this!
Full of insights from a family and others who have really been there, this book gives you advice and strategies to help you and your family thrive.
Contents:
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- Introduction
- The Trauma Difference (Room 1)
- 1. Before
- 2. Expectations
- 3. Meeting
- 4. Moving In
- 5. Honeymooon
- 6. Change
- 7. Christmas
- 8. The Honeymoon Is Over
- 9. Emotional Age
- 10. Stuck
- 11. Food
- 12. Sugar
- 13. Easter
- 14. Birthday
- 15. The Necessary Lies?
- 16. Nonsense Chatter
- 17. Anxiety
- 18. Wee & Poo
- 19. Hypervigilance
- 20. Exhausted (Compassion Fatigue)
- 21. No Friends
- 22. More Than One!
- 23. Straight Talk Please
- 24. Dogs
- 25. Mess
- 26. Blame
- 27. Diagnoses
- 28. Sabotage
- 29. What Lies Beneath (The Internal Working Model)
- 30. Memory
- 31. Lying
- 32. Hypochondria
- 33. Shame
- 34. Visits (Contact)
- 35. Violent
- 36. School
- 37. Isolation
- 38. Guilt
- 39. Therapy
- 40. Busy
- 41. Sleep
- 42. Honesty
- 43. Avoiding Connection
- 44. Who Cares?
- 45. Stealing
- 46. Rude
- 47. Grief
- 48. Moving On
- 49. Hope
- 50. Our Family
- Bibliography and References
Author Bio:
Sarah Naish is an adoptive parent, director of Inspire Training Group, which delivers training on attachment issues, founder of the National Association of Therapeutic Parents and author of the hugely popular Therapeutic Parenting Books series.
