“I’m never drawing happy pictures again.” Day after day Emily draws pictures of dark clouds with rain, and houses with tiny windows and doors. She misses Ben so much.
When Emily loses her brother after a long illness, she feels alone, angry, and very, very sad. With the understanding and support of her parents, Emily learns that it helps when she snuggles with her parents. It helps when she talks about her feelings and asks questions about Ben. And it helps when she does regular kid stuff, too. But mostly, she learns that remembering Ben and their happy life together builds healthy and helpful images that soothe her sad feelings and provide much comfort to her and her family.
“Flying flowers, flying flowers, white, yellow, or blue. When I see one, I’ll remember the special times I had with you.”
Inger Maier, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and author of When Fuzzy Was Afraid of Losing His Mother, When Fuzzy Was Afraid of Big and Loud Things, and When Lizzy Was Afraid of Trying New Things.